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JOELLE SANDER Obituary

SANDER--Joelle Edna Hevesi. (81) of New York City and West Cornwall, CT, died peacefully at home in New York City, November 4, 2023. Throughout her illness, her loving sons Stephen and Jason, devoted themselves to her care and happiness. Joelle was a beautiful woman who led with her intellect, extraordinary creativity, and friendship. Joelle was an award winning writer, having received her award from C. Everett Koop, former Surgeon General, for her book Before Their Time. Her award was designated "Best Adult Book About Children," given by the Braun Center for Holocaust Studies in collaboration with the Kosciuszko Foundation. Sander was the Associate Director of The Center for Continuing Education at Sarah Lawrence College for twenty years and taught "Modern American Poetry" in the B.A. program for adults. She is the author of Margins of Light, a book of poetry. She was also an accomplished painter. Joelle is survived by her sons Stephen and Jason Sander, her companion Robin MacNeil, and her granddaughter Elizabeth Sander, whom she adored. Her sister Carla Tartaglia, her husband Peter and their children Matthew and Nicole. Joelle was predeceased by her late husband Dr. Fred M. Sander, a prominent New York City psychoanalyst.

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Published by New York Times on Nov. 12, 2023.

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Lana Tomao

February 15, 2025

Dear Stephen and Jason,
I met your mother while studying at SLC and we became immediate friends. Both your parents were wonderful and we enjoyed many good times together. Joelle was warm, kind and loving and always shared stories about both of you. When Elizabeth was born your mother was beyond excited to share with Elizabeth everything that was meaningful in her life. And learn what was important to Elizabeth.
Joelle couldn´t wait to share stories about how Elizabeth was so charming smart and interested in everything.
Joelle was a wonderful friend and I will always remember her as a woman I loved and admired.

mary moss greenebaum

December 10, 2023

I am beyond saddened to hear about Joelle. Frankly shocked. I grew up with Fred in Cincinnati and kept in touch with Joelle. Please be in touch if it is possible. Either Jason or Stephen?
I live in Ky and my cell is 502 759 4609.
Thank you. Mary Moss Greenebaum

Ned and Francoise Marcus

November 16, 2023

Remembering many good times with you and Fred, Joëlle. Godspeed!
Ned and Francoise Marcus

Lewis Kirshner

November 12, 2023

Just learned this sad news. We had hoped to reconnect in New York when we return in December. We share many lovely memories and will miss her, as will her close family. Still recall her visit here with Robin with great fondness.
Lewis and Dawn Amsterdam

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